Five attempted suicides in five days in a school! What next?
We were waiting with our team in the lobby for a principal and teachers meet to discuss the importance of emotional quotient in today’s children’s life. Since it was a famous school of Mumbai with a lot of students, mild chaos was always expected. We saw an anxious crowd of mothers weeping outside the principal’s office. Not able to understand what was going on and the intention not to interfere in the school activities, we continued our scheduled meeting. As we came out after the meeting we saw a mother weeping profusely outside the office. We were simply overwhelmed on seeing her state .So, we went up to the mother and offered her a glass of water and told her to calm down .
- Kids having
intense emotions and being unwilling to discuss them with their family.
- Kids having reduced appetite
and sleep disturbances.
- Kids experiencing flashbacks or nightmares.
- Physical problems such as rashes, digestion problems, asthma or weight gain or loss.
- Frequent headaches.
- Fear of leaving home.
- Feeling guilty for not doing more.
- Withdrawing and losing interest in school and/or peer interactions.
- Avoiding school and academic work.
- Having a decreased energy level.
- Feeling indifferent, agitated, hopeless and/or depressed.
- Having suicidal thoughts.
- Rebelling against rules.
- Exhibiting risk taking behaviors
- Help them feel in control by having them make some decisions.
- Reassure them that they did all they could at the time.
- Foster participation in social activities and/or athletics with peers.
- Provide extra attention and comforting.
- Provide a routine but be flexible.
- Relax expectations for a time.
- Encourage participation in rebuilding efforts.
- Take time to prepare yourself emotionally, especially if it is affecting you personally.
- Let children know that it is normal to feel upset and fearful after being exposed to an incident like this.
- Provide an opportunity for children who want to talk about the event to express their thoughts and feelings.
- Respect the right of children to avoid any discussion.
- Avoid repeated dialogue concerning the event that may be disturbing to some children.
- Answer their questions with honesty, yet be brief using words that children easily understand.
- Speak in hopeful terms.
- Understand that some of these children may be extremely angry, withdrawn or sad.
- Realize that it will take time for the students to adjust.
- If deemed appropriate share stories that demonstrate resiliency and that have resulted in a return to a “new normal.
- Offer opportunities for children to draw pictures of their choosing and perhaps pictures that represent their future hopes.
Along with growth of Artificial intelligence we are able to grow the emotional intelligence for our future generation.